Family Center Featured Article
Finding Balance as a Stay-at-Home Mom
By Brooke Avakian I 11.22.16
Ever since I was a young girl, I always imagined being a stay-at-home mom. The idea seemed perfect through my eyes. I grew up with my dad working full time and my mom staying home with my sister and me.
I never considered the possibility of childcare for my children, because it was my responsibility and a fulfilling duty that I had dreamed about.
I have always been a hard working and social person. My biggest goal in life was to become a wife and a mother. I fell in love with my college sweetheart and after graduation I moved to the Vineyard to be with him. I established a career at the West Tisbury School as a teaching assistant during that time, I got married, bought a house in Edgartown and had my son Cooper.
Emotions ran high as the big decision came around; return back to the school or stay at home? It’s stressful to think about putting your 3 month old in daycare or be able to support a family on one income. It was by far one of the hardest decisions we made together.
As time went by I loved not having to commute to work, I could take a walk when I felt like it, and I could snuggle with my newborn son while watching movies. Life was great, and being a new mom was wonderful.
However, I felt with all of my happiness and new life that there was a piece missing. I really started to miss my old life, my drive to work up-island, my coffee breaks, my interactions with people throughout my day.
The Family Center gave me hope and fulfilled my loneliness as a stay-at-home mom. It allowed interactions to happen, and new friendships to form. I had a place to go and form an identity for myself. Baby’s 1st Year was the first group I attended and as the years went by we have accessed the many other programs that the MVFC offers.
Over the last 4 years I have formed into the Stay-at-Home mom that I always envisioned for myself. My son Cooper is 4 and my daughter Lillian is 2 years 8 months. We attend Play with Me groups, Community Fieldtrips, Gardening, and Open Gym/ Playground Groups. I am also an active member on the Parent Advisory Committee.
Being a mom is all about the balance you want to have in your life. For me, I needed to find social structure in order to be successful at my new career as a Stay-at-Home Mom. I am so happy I have taken advantage of the opportunities and free programming the Family Center offers. We are truly blessed to live in such a beautiful and supportive community.